Creating Great Relationships!

1. If you or your partner are jealous, deal with it and heal it. Most couples avoid looking at and doing something about problems like jealousy that exist in their relationship until it's too late and their relationship ends in a breakup or divorce. If you don't tackle this issue when it comes up, it tends to grow and might come up as a resentment and be potentially harmful for your relationship. Jealous feelings can be healed and eliminated. You have to learn the skills that will help you do this and practice them until the jealousy is eliminated.

How can you create your relationship the way you want it to be when you are hanging on to things that have happened to you in the past? Ask yourself if your fears are "true" or are they based on pure fabrication or "failed' relationships from the past?.  If there's no basis of truth to your fears, then learn to change your thinking.  It's not always easy to do and it takes moment-by-moment monitoring of your thoughts. If you need help and support to make the changes you want in your life, take a chance and ask for it.

2.  Whether you need marriage advice or dating advice, it's important tobegin focusing on your relationship and not allowing it to drift along. So often couples put their relationship last on their priority list and they wake up one morning and find that what they thought would always be there, is gone. Begin focusing your attention on your relationship and how you want it to be, rather than what you don't want it to be.

3.  Communication problems are often one of the biggest issues that keep people from having the relationship they desire. One person may agree to do something just to keep the peace and another person may be wanting to be loved and appreciated in a certain way but are not sure how to communicate it. Both people end up withholding their thoughts from one another because of fear and even more distance might be created between them.

To improve your communication, make sure that each of you listens to each other without judgmental thoughts. This is a skill that you'll need to learn because most of us haven't been taught how, but it's central to learning how to communicate with one another in a healthy way.

4. Trust is important to any relationship. For many couples, fears from the past get in the way of having a trusting and connected relationship.  These might include the fear of not being good enough, not attractive enough, not wealthy enough or even feelings of abandonment.